Your Admin(s) Takes Care of You -- Take Care of Them!

This is a frequent problem: Most ageplay group administrators aren't tops. There are exceptions, of course, but most of us are bottoms.

When you join a group, especially if you are one of the first members, the administrator is probably playing one or more adults in the group. This is done in order to help to attract people to the group and to keep things moving forward. It is not because the administrator is a top and/or enjoys topping. Chances are very good that your administrator has an inner child of her own who is important to her, and that she would enjoy the opportunity to play that inner kid in the group. Most of the time she won't until there are other adults, and thankfully they tend to come along fairly quickly.

I want you to think about how hard your administrator(s) works to make the group a good place for you. If she takes the time to discipline your inner kid, or if she creates threads for your inner child to play in, or promotes your characters to other group members, or spends hours answering your questions, please express some gratitude for the things that she has chosen to do for you.

After years of doing this job, I've seen it time after time; members join with their needs and their agenda and they push themselves to the head of the line so that the staff team has to pay attention to meeting their needs instead of taking care of their [the staff's] inner kids. 

One of the things that we've tried at Birchwood Isle Family Discipline RPG is having every single member create both a child and an adult character before being allowed to play. While we've since abolished this policy, it may be about to make a comeback.

Most of our members believe that we do this in order to balance the adults with the children, or to offset the potentially large numbers of IKs that come into ageplay groups. However, our reasoning is vastly different; we want our members to know what it is like to feel the strain of incredibly demanding inner kids.

Remember when playing that selfishness is absolutely rampant in this community. There are always going to be players who want to push their own agendas and who wish to go from one spanking to another and on to the next without much of a pause in between. While this is appropriate for some groups, the vast majority aren't favorable to this kind of bratty behavior. Your acceptance and understanding of the needs of the staff who work hard to keep your favorite sites going goes a long way to making you one of the best literate ageplayers that the staff has seen. 

My co-admin and I are fond of saying that we want our members to perform for us. We are much more likely to want to play with members who entertain us, and will always work hard to keep contributors entertained as well. The more you do for the staff of your site, chances are the more they'll do for you!